Blessings divine channels of feminine light,

I have a question that I would love your support on... and I hope by asking it that it can help other as well...

My partner in his opening has been dealing with a lot of darkeness and experiencing the masculine moodiness... feeling burdened and constricted by life. I know myself so deeply as a shining light. I know a lot is surfacing for him as in the past its been shoved down and repressed. What are tools and way that I can offer my gifts to him??

Sometimes I just feel so connected to my light - and through love and playfullness and open expression can act as a beacon back to the light.

And sometimes when I feel authentically a deep pain in my heart from his mood I offer him my tears in full bodied expression.

Both have seemed to work... just desiring feedback and refelctions.

Sometimes he wants space and to go hide in his cave... and I allow him that space - however it starts to not feel good after awhile... I don't feel like I am truly offering my gifts. And so I flow into his cave and offer him the warmth of my heart.

Something that comes up for me is a desire to not put energy into a negative pattern... any thoughts??

And my other question is this... sometimes I find myself feeling a little bit drained or not so bright and shiny when I am in the midst of his moodiness.... what can I do?? To answer my own question - I see this as a time I can spend with my sisters... yes? Do I just desert him in his moods and go be with my sisters - or do I offer my gifts of love and light and then go be with my sisters??

I also know my partner as a bright light and truly feel he has so much to share with the world... he is just having a spell of confronting his own dark side and closure...

opening to your love and support

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Hey, anyone here in the Boston area? I will be attending the May 4th gathering in LA, but would love to meet any other goddesses who live here in the Boston are.

Greetings Sister,
We do not see your e-mail address in your message. A suggestion to you is to Contact the WarriorSage office and talk to them about it. I bet they have a wonderful library that they could possibly find a home for the book. It sounds wonderful!
Blessings and sparkles to you!
Aime

my husband has published a book called "Lessons From The Warrior Sage." you can find it at Amazon.com it is a story of an ancient Goddess worshiping master and a young female apprentice's journey to self empowerment. i would be happy to donate a copy to your group. i think it would be well received. please feel to contact me at the above email for more information.
Thank You
Traci Andrews

Hi everyone,

Hi, I'm looking to get in touch with Veronique who was volunteering at the Warrior Sage event in Vancouver recently in November. . .any clues on how I might do that? - Jon (p.s. - she'll remember me)

I recently returned from the retreat in Jamaica, and I want to say what a joyful, beautiful, and amazing place it was to be open in the presence of 32 blossoming goddesses. Thank you Suzanne for sharing your gifts with us, what an honor it was to experience this in your homeland. I\'m writing this so all of you juicy women who didn\'t come will have another opportunity next year. I\'m looking forward to seeing you at the next woman\'s retreat in Costa Rica. Much love, Michelle Blum

Hello Goddesses!!!! I look forward to seeing you soon!

Hi Shannon!

Email me at Deborah@warriorsage.com (I manage the Goddess Unveiled Curriculum) and I'll see if I can hook you up w/some goddesses in Southern California. : )

Blessings!
Deborah

Hello wonderful Goddesses,
I would like to take a moment to invite you to check out www.facebook.com. On this site, I have created a Warrior Sage Goddess group. It's called Warrior Sage Goddesses.
I look forward to seeing you there!
Hugs and love!
Aime

Hi I'm from Vancouver and am staying in Studio City for the next two months and wondering if there are any goddess gatherings here. I'm a part of them in Vancouver and would love to find some here in L.A. Can you please let me know. Thanks, Shannon

Hi Sahhara!

You inquired about the goddess unveiled curriculum. Ths Curriculum is designed as community-based follow up/support for women who have completed our Sex, Passion & Enlightenment course. The monthly lessons are practiced in community based groups of women.

If you have completed Sex, Passion & Enlightenment are would like to find out about a group in your area, email me directly -- deborah@warriorsage.com -- and we'll see about hooking up up. : )

with devotion
deborah

Hello ladies!

Thank you for all the feedback about the August Lesson. I am so thankful that the monthly concotions are striking a chord. : ) Sounds like August especially was a big hit. Good to know!

I hope the September Lesson continues to take you deeper and creates even more space for your light to shine!

We have our next Goddess Unveiled Conference Call on September 18th, 7:00 pm Pacific Time (9:55 – 11:30 PM Eastern). Call in number: 646-519-5883
Callers PIN: 4618#

This call is open to the entire goddess unveiled community so please join us! Connect with your sisters across the continent, ask questions, share, inspire and be inspired!

With devotion
Deborah

Hi I would like to know more about the WarriorSage Womens goddess

I wanted to share that I especially liked the lesson on \"emoting sans words\"!
The practice of expressing through gibberish - one insight I had was that this MIGHT work with my teens. They generally know what I\'m trying to say (or think they do) anyway... When I catch myself beginning to \"lecture\" (as they call it) I immediately switch to gibberish. The voice and intonation and emotion are the same - it catches their attention(LOL) - they still get the message and we generally end up laughing at the end. It\'s when they start responding in gibberish that it turns hilareous(sp?).
AND
The practice of using one body part to express emotion without words..over the top - who knew? I don\'t have a lover - but I can see this would be a riotous practice with another (permission and explanation purely optional, I\'d think). This could be a real fun excercise.

That lesson is still resonating with me - while others, I go back occasionaly to re-read.
Keep \'em coming - I have lots to grow!
Yours in Sisterhood
Sandy

What a magical idea this is. I'm ready to be in touch with the goddess who sleeps restlessly

Hello, Divine Goddesses,

I hope that the summer has been treating you all well. It hasn\'t been as hot and steamy as many of us would like - except for on practice lessons, that is!! Is that Deborah bringing it for us or what! Holy cow, the lessons just get more intense and unfolding, don\'t they?

I have also been reading David Deida a lot. I read him before bed. It\'s an ideal time to surrender to the rhythm that is evoked in me. I feel so calm and peaceful, and also so excited and yearning, all at once!

I came across one of my favourite quotes today, from Anais Nin, and thought I would post it for all you beauties. I just love it.

\"I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman.\"

With yummy juiciness,
Corinne

Can\'t wait for the next lesson to arrive!

Just a note and a blessing to Deborah and all of the lovely creaters of the Goddess Unveiled cirrculum. Thank you SO much for the last practice! It was amazing and I jived with my group like never before! It was such a powerful and deep practice and I wanted to send out my gratidue to you with all my heart!

Hi Neha!

I am responding to your inquiry about the nature of the goddess unveiled gatherings/curriculum. The Goddess Unveiled is a Curriculum developed by some of the women at WarriorSage to support ladies in their continued unfolding in third stage feminine practice after doing our Sex, Passion & Enlightenment course. Each Lesson is a three hour gathering, once per month of in-person practices.

Tell me more about your Neha - or feel free to email me directly at deborah@warriorsage.com

Blissings
deborah

Hello all you wonderful Goddesses!

Aime here in Calgary, I hope the summer is treating you all well. If you have heard of facebook and have an account with them, check out a page I created called Warrior Sage Goddesses. You need to be involved in a group of Goddess Unveiled Gatherings to join the page.

Take care and I look forward to seeing you there!
Aime

I want to know more about Women Goddess Unveiling. Please explain the whole concept in detail

Hello my beautiful Goddesses!

It's offical!

The Date and Time for the Shimshai House concert is on Sunday, July 29th at 8:00-9:30ish pm. The suggested donation is $25. I wanted to offer this to my WarriorSage family first. Space is limited and will fill up quickly as soon as Shimshai puts it on his website, so please RSVP as soon as you know you'll be able to attend to Dora at (415) 383-3810. Come early to socialize and party if you can and you're welcome to bring a bottle of your favorite wine or "other" to share. Looking forward to holding each of you again.

Namaste,
Dora

I just wanted to share a plan my group has with the homework this time. We are planning a sleepover to watch one or more of the movies in the integration practices!! Isn't that fun?!

We'll hook it up with the next lesson and do the practice in the morning, after breakfast. We are all very excited about it.

Love and squishiness, Corinne

Hi Patricia!

Well, let's see if I can shed any light on this question regarding feminine modesty (vs. feminine sexuality). . . I believe this topic was raised in relationship to single women????

While single women practicing this third stage work do want to allow their radiance to shine out from their hearts through their bodies, they also want to maintain a sort of modesty -- a demureness, a reserve, an elegance of spirit. . . while you are not suppressing your light, you are also not turning it full blast on just anyone. : ) Ultimately feminine modesty is also about discernment and dignity - if someone (e.g. a man) approaches a woman, attracted to her natural radiance, she maintains a air of modesty/reserve/demureness. Many of us are practicing to open up and allow our light to shine after many years of dimming it out for a variety of reasons, and in that process we will attract first, second and third stage beings to us like bees to blossoms. (buzzzzzz) While third stage feminine practice does encourage a new freedom to be the sexual beings that we actually are and always have been, such practice is not meant to encourage promiscuity (for example). We reserve the fullness of our light for our chosen ones. With our increased radiance and access to the spectrum of feminine sexual energy, we are also practicing discernment and settling for nothing less then depth. The practice of feminine modesty is also a conscious act of responsibility -- feminine beauty and sexual energy is the most attractive force in the universe and the proper relationship to that power is modesty, respect, discernment. . .

I hope I actually have shed a little light on the subject - but feel free to ask more if this has opened a can of noodles. : )

with devotion
deborah

At the II this past weekend, Satyen made reference to "Feminine Modesty" vs. "Feminine Sexuality" and the subtle differences between the two. Would someone please explain?

Deborah,

Yes, your post provided me with a lot of clarity and support.

More and more I am realizing the impact of this work from moment to moment in my life. In some ways, it's almost a blessing to not have a partner at this time, since in order to explore, I am needing to take it out into my world and play, and see what the response is.

Thanks for your insight. Welcome, lucid and loving, as always.

Love, Corinne

Corinne:

As we practice this work we begin to encounter so many layers and subtleties!! Just a quick note on your well thought out query.

The aspect of this work that talks about the feminine inviting a man to provide something vs. directing him on what and how is a teaching about how the little things we do affect the polarity in our intimacy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having and using one's voice -- it is a powerful, beautiful and necessary part of our growth, evolution and fullness. In a moment of intimacy, the difference in saying "Would you turn up the heat" vs. "I'm chilly" is a very subtle shift into masculine/directive energy. Nothing wrong with that at all. To be able to clearly speak what one wants or needs is a skill we all need. In our intimacies we are learning to be sensitive to how the little things we do and say all day long with our lover can accumulate a neutrality or even repulsion of energy that has to be penetrated when we want polarity. In many moments with our lover being more directive is what is needed, required, most effective, etc.

I also use humor alot. Sometimes I say something to my man that is quite directive and then upon realizing that, maybe even feeling his involuntary reaction to it, I use humor about it. "Oh that was rather directive wasn't it" and say it again in another way. Or I wink. Or say it seductively for fun.

With regard to sexuality, however, my man told me recently that he welcomes my "direction" on what I need, like, long for, etc. For myself personally, I try to be sensitive on how I deliver that kind of information to tend to our intimacy, our sensuality, etc. One might do a dyad: "Tell me something about you and sex that you think I should know" or something like that.

Ultimately the teaching about invitation vs direction is intended to provide sensitivity and flexibility on the spectrum particularly in our intimacies. As we grow spiritually we learn to be sensitive in every moment to the hearts we are with and offer ourselves in the way that will best serve that moment and those hearts best.

I hope this quick response provided some additional perspective.

With Devotion
Deborah

I just got off the last Living From Truth weekend. Something came up I would like to put out there.

There’s a practice on persistence. At the conclusion, Anjali took note of the fact that she’s heard many men wish women would just tell them what they want sexually in such plain terms, but that women aren’t like that.

Then yesterday, I was on the deidacentral.com site reading some of the blog posts and there was one about a man and a woman coming in the house, chilled from the outdoors, and the difference between the woman telling the man to put a fire on (which is a blow to his masculinity), and simply saying “I’m cold” (which inspires him into action).

Since beginning with WarriorSage, through this work and the other things that have happened in my life concurrently, one of the opportunities I’ve noticed for myself is that of finding my voice. In this case, and especially, I am referring to sexually. Actually speaking, and feeling heard, and having some kind of adaptation made willingly. I lost my voice in this way at a young age, and then most of my sexual “career”, I’ve attracted men who basically phone it in, who pretend to listen and act as though they have heard for a short while but no real effort from the heart and spirit is made. Selfish and unresponsive.

So with the SPE and the Goddess work, I really feel optimism for this area of my life, in terms of feeling empowered from within. And I’ve raised the bar in a big way, will only indulge a third stage relationship, so am opening my heart in love to attract a man of such consciousness.

My dilemma is: what is the deal with asking for what you want, describing it, being that vulnerable? How do I go about it in a feminine way, which strengthens my confidence and awareness about my own needs while enlivening and inspiring the masculine and bringing greater depth to the relationship? I guess there’s no real formula, since so much depends on the chemistry and synergy of the relationship, but I really just can’t seem to get my heart around this aspect of communication from a third stage viewpoint. Particularly at the beginning of the relationship, when so much exploration needs to happen, so much sharing to do before the foundation of intimacy is really established. I ask because though I am single right now, I can feel the approach of the masculine in my life and I want to deepen in all ways to attract a man of real impeccability and consciousness.

Anybody?

Okay, so I know I'm a few days late, but I wanted to wish all the Goddesses a Happy International Women's Day. What did you do?

In my class, where I work we taught the kids about some famous Canadian Women, and then they had to find their own famous Woman and do a mini research project. They are in Grade 5 all living with disabilities, so even completing one page 3 or 4 sentances is a big deal. We posted their work outside the class and people who walked by didn't know it was International Women's Day.
I was tickled pink at the work that the kids did!

Comments? Questions? from anyone!
Thanks, take care,
Aime

Tamara:

Ahhhhhh. . . Such is the, at times, the gap in understanding between the masculine and the feminine! Well, first my dear, I would recommend not letting so much time pass by before expressing yourself to him. : ) But I totally get that you aren't "needy" in the sense of needing evidence in material form (gifts, flowers, etc.). What sometimes is difficult for the masculine to get is that we longed to be SEEN and FELT and penetrated with their love. This is an art that they are learning, if they are practicing, just as we are learning how to offer our yearning and all of our emotions while being connected to their hearts. We are learning how to offer our love in a way that will most serve and be received by the other. How the feminine wants to feel love (being filled, seen, etc.) is not how the masculine tends want to feel love. They want to feel invited and inspired and evoked into their hearts and bodies.

You don't have to feel bad or quilty for wanting to feel his love on your birthday or on V-Day -- and by the way, the consciouness with which you are approaching the situation demonstrates an authentic desire to serve love rather than need.

Remember also that our partners may often give us the opportunity to confront the ways in our childhood we wanted to be loved and weren't -- this situation may have trigged something for you around that.

After too much time has passed it is often challenging to keep revisiting something that is no longer in the moment. Sometimes I find that sending a heartfelt note or email expressing my thoughts and learnings and insights about the experience is very well received by my man, who ultimately wants to grow and deepen in his art of offering love in the world.

Finally I would ask you if you truly honored yourself deeply on your birthday -- are you offering yourself what you most want to receive? If you didn't, I would definitely recommend treating yourself in honor of both your birthday and V-Day - creating yumminess and romance with yourself and then offering the deliciousity of that gift outward.

Those are my few cents worth for the moment my dear.

Thank you for sharing this as I suspect you aren't alone in this type of experience!

With Devotion
Deborah

Well, I wanted to share something. Thinking maybe a fellow woman would be able to shed some light on my situation. Ok from the begining...
I am currently with an awsome guy. We've been together for a long time and we've shared alot together. Anyways, he's not the sort to get into such things like V-day and what not. I am used to this and I am use to not expecting anything etc. However, my B-day happens to be on the 9th of Feb and he totally forgot! I was crushed cuz I was really feeling emotional about turning the big 25 (feeling kinda down). I was looking forward to something cheering me up and it never happened! Then V-day too came and went with nothing to show. Now dont get me wrong... I am really not the kinda girl who needs flower or materialistic stuff... but a simple "Happy B-day baby" or any gesture of the sort was truly needed. I feel like I deserve that and the fact that he cant seem to feel how important such petty things like that are to me. Especially cuz after talking to him he doesnt even feel the need to make it up to me or to care... How should I feel? Maybe I should just forget it... I need some womanly advice please!
Tamara

Hello all wonderful Goddesses,
So, if you celebrated Valentine's Day, what did you do?

When I got to my appartment, he was there and had done my dishes. I was happy to see him, I put a frozen pizza in the oven.

Then I told Marcus I had something for him. I had Marcus sit down on the couch. I put on Natasha Beddingfield's "These Words". The main words in the song is "I love you". I danced around my appartment to that song. I signed the I love you sign every time it was heard. Marcus liked the dance I did. I didn't really plan it, but I did try to look at him all the time when I was dancing, and keep my eyes open. *laugh* I almost starting crying while dancing.

After that we watched a movie "The Lake House". It's a pretty good movie. I like it, it was a birthday present from a co-worker of mine back in October.

It was a simple evening, but it was enjoyable and fun. I spent time with Marcus and that is all that mattered.

Enjoy the week everyone, Happy Family Day on Monday to my sister Goddesses in Alberta!
Take care,
Aime